YOU, Centered
Get your needs met at home, at work, in your health—without blowing up your life.
RE-SOURCED is a practical methodology for re-patterning the places where it doesn’t feel like there are any good choices available.
Nobody does it better than you.
You learned how to be the adult in the room because nobody else was paying attention, maybe before your nervous system was even ready to carry that. You learned to be hyper-responsible because nobody else was. You learned to be responsible for other people’s emotional states because hyper-attunement kept you safe. You learned that if you weren’t the one holding it all together, it would all fall apart.
You filled in the emotional and practical and functional gaps for everyone else. And it worked. It got you into a network of being needed. It gave you purpose. Identity. You became extraordinarily competent. The one who handles it all. The one who absorbs it all. The one who can grind.
And then suddenly, being needed by everyone all the time is an identity you want to outgrow.
But how do you do that without blowing everything up?
Because the cost of the pattern is resentment. Burnout. Overwhelm. Anger. Insomnia. The I Don’t Care Club.
And you actually do care. You just want it to feel better.
Who is RE-SOURCED for?
Neurodiverse-identifying business owners who are brilliant and still get hung up on executive function
Gen X humans who have been holding it all together for everyone for years—and wondering when it’s their turn?
Parents, Partners, and Leaders ready to relationship better—but need a model that works
Helping Professionals ready to disrupt their own patterns of over-giving and over-tending
What does re-patterning actually look like?
It looks like being able to ask: What do I actually want here? And how do I realize that without feeling terrible, disappointing people, ruining what’s “stable enough”?
With the RE-SOURCED methodology, we start with What do I want? And then we build bridges of safety so that change feels like an evolution, not a betrayal or rupture.
Because the point isn’t to become less responsible, less loving, less ambitious, less generous or less committed.
It’s to have a choice. To be able to hear yourself in the conversation.
You, centered.
The Process
12 Part Practical Methodology: Skills for Being Human
Each session, we focus on one of the 12 parts of the methodology. It’s a seemingly simple but profoundly powerful approach to re-connecting to your agency—centering yourself—even when it feels like there are no choices, or no good choices. The way you learn the method is by practicing in your actual life 400x a day. Not as a sit down and do homework, but as an embodied way of moving thought the world. This is essence of practical change.
Hypnotherapy and NLP
Understanding something theoretically is wonderful. But being able to integrate it at a somatic, subconscious, animal-brain level actual keeps it close at hand so that you have the method when your mood, your reactivity, your relationships ask you for grow.
Practical Application—Every Day
This is the opposite of another thing to do every day. This is a methodology woven into your daily life. When you’re making dinner. While you’re driving. When you are exhausted after work and your people need or want your full attention. When you’re irritated. When you can’t sleep. This is a life methodology that reduces the friction of being human with humans.
Metabolism and Integration in Community
Understanding how things are changing is part of the re-patterning. You build evidence for yourself, in community, by metabolizing how this methodology is creating real change in your life. First you practice each on the twelve parts, in a very concentrated way, then you connect in community how you’ve evolved old patterns. This is nervous system safety building.
What happens when you become RE-SOURCED?
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When I began practicing these Skills, my marriage felt better within two weeks—because I actually had the resources to listen and connect with my husband after being utterly drained and on the edge of burnout. It also helped improve our communication around laundry, dishes, cooking dinner, and driving our kid around.
Guess what? I don’t do laundry anymore! I don’t do dishes! And I feel safe being supported in a way that wasn’t born of a demand or an ultimatum to him.
One of my clients reports having radically better relationships with her team after implementing the RE-SOURCED methodology. Her team’s performance doubled, their job satisfaction went WAY up—and someone who was considering leaving decided to stay. Being RE-SOURCED was how my client was able to recalibrate the energy of her team, AND get her needs met.
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Sometimes it feels like you are at the mercy of your body—but when you develop the Skills I teach in RE-SOURCED, you begin to see your symptoms as connected to the whole of your life. Not to shame or blame, but as pieces of wisdom your body is trying to get your attention with.
I used to have chronic headaches. I still get a headache once in a while, but I no longer lose three days to them. I no longer shut down my life and my relationships because I'm consumed with both physical pain and mental shame around my body failing me.
Is it the end of the world when I get an occasional headache? Not anymore.
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You heal the burnout or bored-out and restore your vitality.
One of my clients came to me in burnout. She was working one job and trying to get her own healthcare practice off the ground. She was crispy with burnout.
Within a month of working together, she was shocked to realize that she was no longer burned out. She didn’t slow down the opening of her practice. She didn’t do less. She got RE-SOURCED.
And she did it while living her full life.
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Another client took her first family vacation in years. It never felt safe to leave her own business long enough to afford a vacation that wasn’t to see extended family—both financially and emotionally.
She and her kids and husband took a five-day vacation with no guilt! And no debt. Because she got RE-SOURCED.
And she has another one on the books before the end of the year.
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A client decided to close her brick-and-mortar practice to focus on her online healing practice. Another one decided to sell her practice because she was ready for “what’s next.”
Neither of them was running away—they allowed themselves to evolve into what their bodies and beings were asking for.
A win for everyone involved, including most of all my clients.
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You make space for inspiration, creativity, evolution.
Another client shared that she was ready to make a much bigger impact with the work she does around advocacy because the rest of her life was so stable.
Not boring, not quiet—she has two kids who are very active in multiple sports. She has a stable business.
But she understood that she is here to make a bigger impact, and that’s what’s aligned. Not to hustle more, but to help more, from a rooted place of being RE-SOURCED.
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Being RE-SOURCED is writing your story, your life, and your choices to live congruently with your values.
As the oldest of six kids and the child of a teen mom, I was parentified way too young. I also have ADHD. My husband is autistic.
I understand neurodiversity from my daily lived experience. I learned very early how to compensate by being hyper-responsible, paying attention to what everyone needed while putting my needs last. I also got a lot of dopamine from being helpful and needed.
I got so good at it, I couldn’t recognize my own needs until they showed up as fairly loud physical, emotional, or relational symptoms. I thought that was normal.
And even then, I didn’t feel like I had a choice around my needs. My hyper-functioning worked really well for everyone—including me. Until it didn’t.
I used it to build my dream acupuncture practice. Which was a good thing—until I realized I had replicated my childhood pattern of being the one taking care of everything so completely that I was burned out.
Not in an “I need to take to my bed” way, but more like: I don’t have energy for the people I care most about in my life.
I would come home every evening after seeing patients dreading talking to my husband. (He’s lovely, btw. It wasn’t him. It was the burden I had created for myself in order to feel useful and wanted.)
I would feel terribly guilty for loving my kid and also wanting them to just. be. quiet. because I felt so maxed out from taking care of the world.
I knew I wasn’t living in alignment with the healing I was facilitating with my patients, so I hired a mentor from whom I learned the 12-part Skills that became the foundation of RE-SOURCED.
And within two weeks of practicing them—not doing extra homework or studying, because I was literally too busy—my husband said:
“I don’t know what you’re doing differently, but please keep doing it. Because our life is WAY better.”
I wanted to connect with him after work. I wanted to listen to my daughter again with full, genuine presence.
I didn’t set out to improve my family’s life.
I prioritized ME feeling better. It didn’t come at their expense. It benefited all of us.
For the past six and a half years, I’ve continued practicing, refining and teaching these 12 Skills, and they’ve become foundational to the work I do with my clients.
Along the way, I also began using hypnotherapy to help me work with these patterns at a deeper, subconscious level, and became a certified hypnotherapist in 2023. I now use both in RE-SOURCED.
The point of any of this isn't that the way you've learned to function is wrong. A lot of these patterns probably served you incredibly well. Mine certainly did.
The point is being able to recognize when a pattern is no longer serving you—and having enough internal choice to do something differently.
This is exactly why I created RE-SOURCED.
I know what this feels like
How You Get RE-SOURCED
LIVE COACHING
18 live, 60-minute coaching sessions over six months.
Learn the Skills, bring what’s actually happening in your life, practice together, and get coached as you use them in your relationships, work, family, and life.
SKILLS + RESOURCE LIBRARY
The complete 12-Skills practice, session recordings, Skills recordings, and guided hypnotherapy for each Skill. Return to the resources when you need them—not because you have content to “finish,” but because your life is giving you an opportunity to practice.
SIX MONTHS OF PRACTICE
Six months to incorporate a life-changing methodology for being resourced—no matter what your life looks like. Practice the Skills in your actual life, bring what happens back into the room, and keep working with them until they become yours. That’s the point.